The Role of Female Union Spies in the Civil War by Hallie Murray
How to Deal with Embarrassment
How To Get Over The Embarrassment Of An Awkward Moment
Those are the thoughts racing around your head in the immediate aftermath of that foot-in-mouth moment. Your hand flies up to your face and the red yes, for me it does actually have a color fog of confusion descends…. Yep, discombobulated does it for me as the perfect adjective to describe the embarrassment in the wake of an awkward moment. After all, who wants to relive the blushes and discomfort as you re-imagine the scene of your shame? That in turn causes a widening of the capillaries carrying blood to your skin and, hey presto, the scarlet peril is upon you. The theory goes that blushing indicates recognition of misbehavior and therefore a willingness to try to do better in future and to conform to social norms.
Maybe you said something a bit awkward. Maybe your voice sounded a little weird. Maybe someone gave you a small rejection — like avoiding talking to you. And now your mind is torturing you. Over and over again on repeat. And the worst part is: YOU are the star of this terrible movie! Yes, that small backpack is it.
MORE IN LIFE
The other day I was putting away laundry, my least favorite chore. What more do you want from me? My mind was wandering this way and that when, out of nowhere, a memory pulled me back to the summer of I was an intern in the health section at msnbc. There were so many things to worry about. Sometimes, I noticed, if I showed up late but was wearing something nice, she would tacitly dismiss my tardiness. I started copying my roommate, who at 25 seemed infinitely wiser than me, and who on weekdays favored mid-length jersey skirts in dark, office-approved neutrals.